By: Ray Simpson, The Arc Minnesota Self-Advocacy Program Intern
“I want to share my experiences, so others don’t feel alone, and I have an outlet.”-Greta
This month for our self-advocacy spotlight, Greta will be sharing her experiences and talking about ableism. Ableism is negative actions or words against someone who experiences mental, emotional, or physical disabilities.
Greta is a self-advocate with the Arc Minnesota who enjoys expressing herself in creative ways. When asked why she wanted to be a part of this month’s newsletter she replied, “I want to share my stories, so others don’t feel alone. I want to go places. I want to give myself and outlet and heal by sharing my experiences.”
When Greta was young, she had an experience with ableism with her childhood friend and their mother. Greta’s friend whispered to her a negative comment that her mother had said about Greta’s intelligence. The statement hurt Greta deeply, as she felt betrayed by her friend and their mother. Greta has since forgiven them and understands that not everyone is educated in ableism.
Greta was asked if there are things she does to help her cope when she experiences ableism. “I like to listen to empowering music. Some of my favorite artists and genres are Christina Aguilera, Godsmack and gospel. Sometimes I like to listen to metal when I am really angry. The music I listen to changes with my mood.” Greta also uses a stuffed plush weighted animal to help her feel more relaxed.
Greta shared the need for safe spaces and what those look like for her. When Greta wants to be in a safe space, she goes to the VFW for Karaoke. “I go for the food, music and friendly fellowship.” Greta’s brother-in-law’s home is also a place she feels welcome. Greta enjoys talking with her brother-in-law and doesn’t feel judged. Cooking helps Greta feel safe, and her brother-in-law enjoys when Greta cooks for him.
Greta shared her wonderful ideas for how to create a safe space for people with disabilities. “Always have a quiet and calming space with plenty of fidgets.” Greta also shared that if you are going to provide a safe space for someone, do not gossip about them to other people after. Gossiping is not providing a safe space. Greta’s last piece of advice is to not judge others if they have a different need than you. If someone is sensitive to noise, be respectful of them and help them.